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Small Kindnesses: It’s Free, Takes Little Time & There’s a Payoff

November 15, 2019 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

On Wednesday, it was World Kindness Day so we thought it would be apropos to write a blog about it. Extending a small kindness doesn’t cost a penny, take much time and, in fact, offers a huge payoff. It can elevate your mood. “Hey,” you think to yourself, “I did something nice for someone else and I feel pretty good about it.” Often, it simply means smiling, offering a compliment and performing a simple gesture.  We hear so much about divisiveness and hate today, about this group against that group. “Mostly we don’t want to harm each other,” said Danusha...


Time is of the Essence for our Parents who are Still Alive

November 08, 2019 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

If we get lucky and then live long lives, that often means extra time to mend relationships before it’s too late, no matter how frayed. It’s also the time for many of us to start managing the care of our parents and that often means putting whatever issues you have with them on hold as we take over management of their lives. This may entail making housing arrangements if they cannot live independently without assistance. Most want to age in place which in elder care parlance means staying in their homes and hiring someone to care for them if affordable....


Pet Peeves: You’ve Got to be Kidding!

November 01, 2019 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

We are here to complain and are taking this directly to our readers. We’re referring to pet peeves, you know, those little things in life that get under our skin. They slip in and can join us any time of day. There is no warning and nothing dangerous about them. However, they are as annoying as an itch that can’t be scratched.   To wit, consider these.  -Listening to people get competitive about grief. Scenario: Three women having lunch who prattle on about losing their husbands. Conversation: My husband left me. Well mine died. Mine died in a flash. Mine died...


Want or need a second (or third) career? 50-Plus-Year-Olds are Reimagining Themselves

October 25, 2019 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

Amy E. Gerwitz At a time when many of her contemporaries are winding down, Amy E. Gewirtz, 62, felt that some of her most interesting, fulfilling days were still ahead. From the time she was a teen, she was drawn to theater. After receiving a law degree, Gewirtz practiced entertainment law. However, after her first daughter was born, she segued into law school administration, initially joining Cardozo Law School as a career counselor and admissions counselor for 10 years. Subsequently, she went to work at Pace Law School, where she started as a career counselor, and then created and directed...


Pass It Forward Now Rather than Make Your Heirs Do It Later

October 18, 2019 Barbara Ballinger

 I live alone in a charming two-story frame vintage home, originally built in 1797 with an addition completed in 1865. The bills keep mounting. It’s not unlike the scenario in The Money Pit, a movie starring Tom Hanks and Shelley Long about a couple who buy an old house that needs so much work it sucks their money like a parasite. I can relate and frequently joke, “I work to maintain my adorable home with its picket fence at the front, hydrangeas all around and pretty backyard.” Many of my generation are in the same boat. They get hit with soaring...