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Annus Horribilis: How to live like a Queen after loss

May 14, 2021 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

Today’s blog is fictional with a fairy tale twist. It’s about a real-life princess who becomes a queen and marries a prince, who dies before she does. How does a queen deal with spousal loss after a 73-year union? For help, she calls in the authors of Suddenly Single after 50 (us) for advice. Of course, we obliged.  London—Once upon a time, a lovely 21-year-old Princess Elizabeth II met a dashing young royal, Philip Mountbatten, who subsequently became a prince. The two were married for 73 years.    Their union was a far cry from a fairy tale, although they...


No More ‘Mommy May I’: How our mothering has changed as we, and our children, have aged

May 07, 2021 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

 As we approach Mother’s Day this year, it got us thinking about how our parenting styles have changed now that many of us have adult children. Doing a good job at this stage generally reflects a cautious balancing act. Telling adult kids what to do just doesn’t cut it any longer. It isn’t anything we did; we’ve all had wonderful times together. But in a flash, our kids have grown up as we also grew older. They separated from us and now have their own lives. And isn’t that what we wanted for them? “Mommy May I” has become, “Hey, it’s...


In the Company of Widowers: How They Grieve & Move On

April 30, 2021 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

One day, out of the blue, Barbara received an email from a long-time friend, Dennis Lockhart, 74, the 14th president and CEO of the Federal Reserve Bank of Atlanta. Now retired, Lockhart, had lost two wives to different, protracted illnesses. He wrote Barbara, “Since it’s most natural for women to survive a husband, I was thinking that there are a lot of guys out there who haven’t thought about everything they have to take care of when a wife or partner pre-deceases them.”    The email started us thinking about how differently men and women seem to deal with spousal loss....


Mind Games: Performance anxiety & tactics to rein it in

April 23, 2021 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

  You get up in front of a group. All eyes are on you. You are about to speak and suddenly laughter erupts. You look down and realize you are buck naked. You shriek and run off the stage.  You just had a common recurring nightmare about humiliation when performing. To take it a step further, some therapists believe this common nightmare is also about guilt and inferiority, according to a piece in HuffPost, “What it Means When You Dream About Being Naked in Public: It’s all about keeping your emotions in check” by Sarah DiGiulio, Feb. 23, 2017.  What about...


Pivot: Which Way to Go?

April 16, 2021 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

Piv-ot. It’s the most overused term of the pandemic era and a concept that has bubbled to the surface as crucial to surviving. It’s about shifting gears, if you will, from a job you may have been in for years or decades, for which there is less need now, to one that offers greater demand of your time and services—and for which you are wildly appreciated. Kudos to all those restauranteurs who can’t serve diners inside but knew they could set up outside spaces in which they could feed them safely or become caterers and take-out food shop owners. Some...