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All Hands on Deck to Bake for Underserved & Homeless Seniors

February 21, 2020 Margaret Crane

On a chilly Friday as the sun negotiates the cloudy afternoon sky, I walk to the Jewish Community Center (JCC) on the Upper West Side of New York City to bake holiday cookies with a group of strangers for homeless and underserved seniors. Security is heavy at the door as I hand over my cell phone and keys, open my purse for inspection of the contents and walk through an X-ray machine. I take the elevator down to the building’s sub-basement and enter a smallish room called the Patti Gelman Culinary Arts Center where four baking stations await us. The...


How Do We Measure Love? Let us Count Seven Ways

February 14, 2020 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

So many of us feel we must get all mushy-gushy on Valentine’s Day as we face stores crammed with everything red and heart shaped. For some of us boomers, Valentine’s Day and the romantic love it purports, all seems forced and saved up for one day that’s manufactured and capitalized on by the many candy firms, florists and card companies. Yet, we follow the same ritual year after year for fear that if we don’t, we may hurt the feelings of our nearest and dearest. So, we gift them something sweet and romantic, take them out for a special meal...


Boundaries: How to Stay (Safely) in Your Lane

February 07, 2020 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

 Oh, it’s so tempting to veer into another lane and take up the entire highway as long as nobody’s in your way. Or, it’s so nice to inch over into your partner’s side of the bed, spread out more and even hog his/her pillow and blanket. Or, how tempting and delicious it seems to be to give your grown kids some of what’s really on your mind since they should know what we think. After all, we’ve lived longer and have such brilliance stored up just for this very moment. Ha! We all have the urge at times to cross...


Burnout is One of the Liabilities of ‘Raising’ an Aging Parent; New Book Helps

January 31, 2020 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

Grown adult children who help to care for an elderly parent often face burnout. Listening to them repeat themselves, sometimes feel no gratitude for the time and money expended, often be berated or yelled at— “Where is my food? What’s taking so long?” Hearing such tirades can wear on the psyche and be disheartening. We think our parent was never like this before. What’s going on? How can I continue to handle this? That’s when the resentment and guilt start to build and spill over into disagreements that might never be resolved. It’s a huge problem. Approximately 41 million unpaid...


Fantasy Interview: The Queen & Heirs Harry and Meghan Dish on the Family Firm

January 24, 2020 Barbara Ballinger & Margaret Crane

Everybody now refers to the royal family as The Firm, implying it’s a family business. And as journalists who’ve written about hundreds of family businesses in articles, posts and two books, including Corporate Bloodlines: The Future of the Family Firm, we concur.  Yes, it’s privately-held but publicly-funded in large part by its citizens and government for the services it renders—good will, celebrity cachet, style and its fabled fairy-tale lifestyle with members wearing fancy ribbons, medals, uniforms, hats, jewels and tiaras and living in castles and palaces that somehow signal that all those within its kingdom are very special.  But behind...