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Usually, we have a roomful of women attending our talks and signings about becoming Suddenly Single after 50: The Girlfriends’ Guide to Navigating Loss, Restoring Hope, and Rebuilding Your Life, based on our book by that title and our weekly blog, www.lifelessonsat50plus. Occasionally a guy attends, often to be supportive of a female friend. But weren't we surprised--and delighted--the other day when a talk in Barbara's hometown brought forth several guys, and one asked a very touching question:  Question: I'm a widower; I lost the love of my life, and I don't know how to move forward. What advice can...

 A Q&A with Author/Therapist Lisa Ferentz Valentine's Day is approaching, and if you're in a rocky relationship or alone or even happily wed, we have a gift as good--or almost--as candy, wine or a piece of blingy jewelry--being kind and loving toward you! Here's more advice and compassion from therapist and author of Finding Your Ruby Slippers (Pesi Publishing) by Lisa Ferentz.   Question: Why the title for your book? Answer:  In The Wizard of Oz, Dorothy gives the Wizard all the power by believing that only he can tell her how to get back home. Of course in the end, she discovers that...

We’re pretty content. At this point in our lives, we don’t need much except more time to do all we still want to do: continue to write, see more of the world, do more good for others and planet Earth, and be with family and close friends more often.  Do we need more things? Let's talk about material possessions, appropriate before Thanksgiving kick-starts the frenzy of buying for the holiday season--tinsel, gifts, dreidels, and more. We fantasize about wining a big lottery. For Barbara, this would mean she could justify redoing her kitchen--what would be her fourth remodel, and this...

As ice storm advisories were issued here recently, many of us had one very distressing thought on our minds. What if we lose our power? Sitting in the hermetic world of my cozy apartment in the middle of the onslaught of freezing rain, I worried most about what I was going to do if…..  I am alone. I am on the top floor of a condo building. If the power shuts off, I will freeze.     But did I do anything? I just sat there, my mind as clogged as a storm sewer.  A note was slipped under the door....

I know you care when you call, email or text, even if I don't get back to you quickly because of pain from my broken wrist and arm. Sometimes, however, I wish you would walk in my shoes a bit and understand how it sounds when you say things that are neither kind nor helpful:  This is really not that bad in the scheme of life. Of course, it isn't but right in the here and now it's horrific for me that I can't use my right hand for so many pursuits. I can't shower on my own, brush my...