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  Do you think you’re losing your mind because you can’t pull up the right word for something? Actually, your memory probably isn’t as razor sharp as it used to be in most cases. Yes, it’s another “at your age…” condition.  Words elude you. Purposes do, too. You walk into a room and forget why. You can’t pull up someone’s name (maybe your bestie’s, how insulting)—you know, what’s his name. And you put something down like your keys or phone and forget where you left them. A chunk of time is spent trying to locate them. Often, they are right...

  It’s inevitable. At some point in our lives, as our parents and partners age, a very close friend or one of our children might get injured, have an illness or need a replacement part. We must step into an important and big job for which we never went to school to learn, have no degree in the specialty or in many cases, no experience. It’s called caregiving.    Right now, skilled caregivers are hard to find and terribly expensive. That’s when loving family members usually step in. It’s no easy task and can often morph into a full-time endeavor. Many...

What is one of the easiest, most natural, cost free and healthiest of pursuits?  A simple walk. If you don’t have a park, who cares! There are so many other sights to enjoy.  We know as experts in this sport at which we excel. When we were drafting our last book, Not Dead Yet, we talked about the value of a walk as we age. We mention Karen Duffy who wrote about the importance of walking to mitigate back pain in her book titled, An Inspirational Manual for Coping with Chronic Pain. She has become a flaneur (a walker/wanderer), she says.   Apparently hoofing...

Just because we think we’re right about something often boxes us in and sometimes makes us view negatively those who do not agree with our beliefs. It sets up walls that may be based on distorted reasoning. We’ve found this is particularly true for issues like religion, politics and social issues, according to Ilana Redstone in a Washington Post newspaper opinion piece on, “The Certainty Trap” (March 16, 2023). She notes that when it comes to perhaps a heated political discussion, the Certainty Trap holds us back. “Paradoxically, those issues where we feel most threatened by disagreement are the ones where we...

  “Mother, May I?” was a game we played as kids that we also played with our children. It reflected how we raised them. They had to ask our permission to perform certain tasks. It kept them safe and taught them values and manners. Then, they grew up and no longer had to ask our permission to do (almost) anything—May I bungee jump? We’d rather not if you want our opinion, we might have said. Might I go on an exotic trip? Yes, may we tag along? Is it okay if I move in with my girlfriend? Are you serious,...