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Having a way to visualize your life can make a difference in seeing things more clearly and help you make changes. We do it with our diets. You list what you ate one day, and then you grasp why you didn’t lose weight. Oh, that bag of chips and ice cream cone must have made the difference, as did never exercising! A pie chart can work as the perfect symbol to picture activities and map time allocated over a week, month or several months. The chart--a round circle--can be divided into any number of different pieces to display the relative...

We might not be dead yet (as our newly-released book points out in its title), but as we age, we find we’re attending more funerals, wakes and Shivas. Is it morbid to think of these venues as a place to do a meet and greet? Let’s be realistic. Where else can we go as we age to meet others when we’ve lost interest in Internet dating, have no intention of sitting in a bar, have friends who don’t know anyone to fix us up with and everybody we work with is half our age? Rationalize it this way. Funerals, wakes...

Aging is a challenge as we all know. However, it no longer means having to sit home alone, in a rocking chair on the porch, in front of the TV or waiting for the phone to ring. As aging boomers, whether healthy or not, let’s try to spend our time doing what we can and deal head on with whatever is thrown our way—illnesses, wrinkles and sagging skin, death of friends and family, grown children, aging parents, intimacy and sex, relationships, work and our passions, downsizing, estate planning and where to live in our final years and more. At least...

Now that the Presidential election has been decided, many of the conversations we age-defiers focus on revolve around our aches, pains and upcoming or recent medical procedures. In our forthcoming book, Not Dead Yet: Rebooting Your Life after 50, we devote a chapter to this topic with good takeaways.   Talking about our ills and pills is hauntingly similar to our parents’ and even our grandparents’ conversations. We acknowledge that we’re past 50, maybe even 60, 70 or–gasp--80, but does all of our schmoozing and get-togethers have to begin and sometimes end with what someone we heard refer to as an “organ...

After we lay our loved ones to rest, we sometimes think about all the questions we never asked and what we wish we had told the dearly departed before they passed away.  Margaret often says that she kept news from her parents when they were alive, so she didn’t alarm them or have them judge her. Her actual conversations with them were often sanitized, and she realized afterward there were so many questions she had never asked but wish she had.  Barbara feels the same way, wondering, for example, what it was like for her father, the son of immigrants...