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Dear Friends and Family, Call us old-fashioned, and we are in many ways, but there are times when emailing and texting just don’t seem to be proper decorum. Yes, it’s better to email or text than do nothing, but more prudent to call, and best to write that old-fashioned note.  Think Jane Austen–or any of your favorite authors and epistolary novelists…who took pen to paper to share their kind, heartfelt words. Make them your muse. Writing a note doesn’t mean composing a Ph. D. thesis, but a few meaty sentences whether you’re writing to say how sorry you are for...

My mother lived and died with class. She was a link to a certain kind of past and that is part, but only part, of why I mourn my mother, Beatrice or “Beattie” as she liked to be called, or Grandma Bea, my kids’ moniker. Just days before she slowly and peacefully slipped away in a morphine-induced state of unconsciousness, the disease that had presented itself as cancer 23 years ago had resurfaced with a vengeance. She had been left back then without a jaw, which she had reconstructed so it resulted in a crooked smile. Yet, she managed with...

The longer we live, the more we experience joy and sadness, both packed together like sweet and sour flavors in an Asian recipe. It’s the pain-pleasure principle Sigmund Freud posited. Life is to be lived to the fullest with pleasure as the primary goal whereas pain is more immediate and difficult to accept. Now that I’m approaching age 70, I find myself smack up against the reality of pain-pleasure more as I deal with my mortality and prodigiously recall the good and painful granular details of my life—the streets where I lived as a kid, days in school and childhood...

Return to sender Return to sender  I gave a letter to the postman, He put it his sack. Bright in early next morning, He brought my letter back.  She wrote upon it: Return to sender, address unknown. No such number, no such zone.  We had a quarrel, a lovers’ spat I write I’m sorry but my letter keeps coming back.  So then I dropped it in the mailbox And sent it special D. Bright in early next morning It came right back to me.  She wrote upon it: Return to sender, address unknown. No such person, no such zone.  This time I’m gonna take it myself And put it right in her hand. And...

With all the talk about Marie Kondo’s runaway bestseller, “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing” (Ten Speed Press, 2014), we’ve both spent more time reassessing the real value of our own cluttered lives. As we age, do we really need more clothing, furniture, books, collections, t’chokes? Answer: Simply put–no. That’s why now we’re on a kick to free ourselves of stuff and spend our time with people we care about, our money on what matters and to do the things we love. Minimalism really feels right, even perfect. We actually consider ourselves a bit...