Guest Blogger: 5 Tips for Jumpstarting Your Dating Life After 50

Guest Blogger: 5 Tips for Jumpstarting Your Dating Life After 50

#1 Begin by making your own happiness a priority!

What does this have to do with dating? When you’re happy, you glow. When you glow, men are attracted to you. Happiness begins inside you and is complimented by the good man you meet. Get your inner mojo fired up by finding things to do on a daily basis that make you happy. This can be as simple as buying a new book you’ve wanted, or taking a bubble bath and reading a book. It just has to make you happy. That’s all that counts.

#2 Create a Single Girlfriends List.

When my 24-year marriage ended, I wasn’t ready to date. I recognized I needed some time to heal. Yet I didn’t want to spend every Friday and Saturday night alone with my dog and the TV. So I began asking friends if they knew other single women I could go to the movies or dinner with. This was one of the best things I ever did. Not only did I have fun on the weekends while I was single, but when I began dating, I had amazing support from a friend who understood what it felt like to be single and dating again. This week, think of all the single women you know.

Ask friends about single women they know too, and then create a Single Girlfriends List. When you want to do an activity and don’t have a date, call these friends and do something fun together!

#3 Accept yourself where you are today versus competing against an earlier version of you.

I know how hard it can be to look in the mirror and see the 50+ version of you.

You start judging yourself, wondering what man is going to love a woman this age. To set the record straight…you’re not old! Heck, 60 is the new 40!But you feel old because you’re comparing yourself to how you looked at 20. Men don’t do this when they look at you. Their only point of reference is what you look like right now. And many men will love how you look. Attracting a good man starts with loving you first. So today, find 10 good things you love about you and start reminding yourself about how awesome you really are!

 #4 Learn from your past mistakes.

 When working with my clients, we look at all the men they’ve been attracted to in the past. Clients have huge Aha! moments when they see they’ve been unsuccessfully dating the same guy over and over again without realizing it.

Once we’ve discovered the patterns, together we create what I like to call a Red Flag List. This is a list that helps my clients see they are once again attracted to the same guy and if they go there…chances are, it’s going to end the same way the last one did. The reason you’re attracted to the same man over and over again is because he feels comfortable to you. It doesn’t mean he’s good for you. Take a look at the men you’ve dated in the past and see how many of them are really same guy with the same issues just in different clothes.

#5 Do what it takes to make your dream of finding Mr. Right come true!

Do you remember the last time you looked for a place to live? Think about the mindset and the time you committed to interviewing realtors, checking out houses or apartments and even looking online at Zillow so you could find the right place. Dating is like this too. It requires a full commitment to doing what it takes to Find Mr. Right.

You want to be working on your dating goals everyday, whether it’s favoring men on a dating site, flirting with men in the real world, or meeting men for coffee or a drink. Unfortunately, men don’t fall out of the sky (even though it would be so much easier if they did). Since they don’t, it’s going to require some effort on your part to make your dream come true.

Lisa Copeland is known as the expert on over 50’s dating. She’s the best-selling author of The Winning Dating Formula For Women Over 50 and a regular Huffington Post contributor. Her mission is to help as many women around the world as she can discover how to have fun dating and finding their Mr. Right after 50. To get your FREE Report, “5 Little Known Secrets To Find A Quality Man,” visit

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